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14 Responses to “Potty Training and Dyspraxia”

  1. Some children with Dyspraxia have difficulties getting potty trained and with other activities such as bottom wiping- do you have concerns you want to discuss?

  2. Potty training can be hard for some children with Dyspraxia also the difficulties of learning how to wipe bottoms properly.
    It is sometimes the conversation that everyone avoids. Have you had difficulties with your child?
    How have you found successful ways of helping- share them with others.

  3. Debra says:

    My 7 year old son has problems with bed wetting. He has never had a dry nappy and now has started having bowel movements at night. Can you help?

  4. Sarah A says:

    I have a 12 year old son with Verbal Dyspraxia who wets during the day, but is generally dry at night. Is this linked to the dyspraxia? It has been investigated twice by paediatricians, lastly trying Oxybutinin but this made him doubly incontinent, and the Paediatrician said nothing further could be done. His school are now pushing for further investigations but I don’t know where to turn, can you give any advice please?

  5. Debra Lowy says:

    My little boy will be 3 and a half next month and has DCD as well as sensory integration issues. He refuses to sit on a potty or a toilet seat as he says it hurts him. Do you have any advice?

    He also doesn’t seem to be aware that he’s having a bowel movement or doing a wee until a second or two before he’s doing it so he seems to be a long way off being potty trained even if he were amenable to it. Is this developmental delay directly attributable to the DCD and what specifically causes it?

  6. Amanda Kirby says:

    It is sometimes difficult to know why there is some delay. He is still quite young and there is wide developmental variation.
    OK- bed wetting first- try the website ERIC- see organisations on this site- they have some great ideas and methods of helping including use of alarms.It can run in families- and around 10% of 5 year olds still wet at night.
    Wetting at night and verbal dyspraxia- I dont know of any link between the two. Could you ask school to take him to the toilet on a very regular basis so he has opportunity. Could they also use a card system so he can tell them if he needs to go.
    3 year old and potty training- he may not be getting an adequate sensation. try and make it a good experience, tempting him with raisins for example or watching TV for with you if he sits on it for a few minutes. Leave it around and give him the opportunity to use it. You can get potties with tunes if you pee in them= this can give him a signal if he is successful also.

  7. Angela says:

    My 10 year old was diagnosed with dysphraxia at 8yrs and has always struggled to wipe his bottom clean himself. This is now getting embarrassing for him and causes difficulties at school. I have tried everything I can think of with no success.

  8. Michelle Weston says:

    My 13 year old stepson has lived with us since 8.5 years. I have tried everything to toilet train as he used to stand but wouldn’t hold himself, so I made him sit and still he wouldn’t hold and I was always cleaning up the floor, but he won’t wipe, just pulls off toilet paper and puts it down the toilet to make it look as if he is using it, but he’d rather use his fingers (not all the time), I’m going to try him with wet wipes – is there anything else I can try?

  9. Birgitta from Norway says:

    Hi, my son is 12,5 years old and struggles with the coordination of wiping his bottom. Since he is aware about that, he wants me to help. I help him. We sometimes do it together to train. I hold his hand, make sure the papaer covers the skin inside his hand, and we wipe together. That way he gets the experience og the movement without failing/getting dirty.
    And this takes us a small step ahead towards independence…

  10. dyscovery says:

    Great idea to encourage independence. Using wet wipes and practicing where to wipe when not actually doing it can help. Thanks for your ideas

  11. Supernanny says:

    * Use big wet wipes or kichen roll (stronger & bigger than toilet paper!)
    * Let the child stand on the floor and put one leg on the toilet seat/a stool etc to create extra space “down below” & increase maneuverability

    Hope it helps!!

  12. Barbara says:

    I have three sons (grown up now), one of whom is dyspraxic. I think it’s important not to make a huge deal out things, especially ‘milestones’ so I didn’t potty train at all. We went straight from nappies, to using the toilet, (with an ‘adaptor’ seat). My sons were in nappies a little longer than their peers, (I didn’t see it as a race at the time, though) When they were ready, THEY decided to use the loo instead and it all went very smoothly and was quite a relaxed process. My dyspraxic son tended to use more paper but, other than that, the whole process went very smoothly. He was also dry and nappy free at night three weeks after ditching nappies during the day. I really believe it’s important not to put pressure on children to achieve ‘milestones’ but be supportive and encouraging to help them find their own way. So what if it seems to take a little longer than other people’s children?

  13. Isabella says:

    Dear Brigitta from Norway,

    I read your post of 2 years ago and was very interested as I have a son of 12 with exactly the same problems. Did you discover any tips over this time.

    Isabella from England!

  14. Hannah says:

    My son is nearly 8 years old and he has dyspraxia and he also has issues with wetting by day and by night and recently he has a big issue with soiling himself during the day. I’m just wondering is it linked?